How to Respond when a Girl doesn’t Remember You

Guest post by Rob Judge

It’s Monday afternoon. You scroll through your phone about to “play the numbers,” meaning you’re about to text all the girls you met over the weekend. Some girls were hot, others were…well…nice.

Regardless, you send them all a personalized text: her name, a flirty greeting, and a little joke the two of you shared. Then you sit back…and wait.

Almost immediately, your phone lights up with a response. You read the sender’s name and get excited! It’s a gorgeous little hotty—a girl you thought would be a TOTAL flake! Amazed at how fast she hit you back, you do a little dance to the gods of game and then flip open your phone. Your heart’s pounding, your hands are shaking, you hold your breath, and read…“Who is this?”

The ultimate buzz-kill.

You can’t BELIEVE it. You’d called her phone on the spot, precisely to PREVENT this situation! Now it’s as if you’re back at SQUARE ONE. You wonder if it’s EVEN worth responding AT ALL…

Well, for those who’ve experienced such (un)forgettable disappointments, I certainly feel your pain. Any guy who’s been out collecting his fair share of numbers is bound to hit a few amnesiac babes. But I’ve found the situation to be salvageable if you make a few crucial moves.

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The power of Troy Dizon Dating’s teachings is that they were derived by watching naturals who had never consciously tried to develop a method of picking up women.  They were discovered by Troy after going out over and over again, meeting dozens of men who learned their own ways to attract women, and carefully putting together what they all had in common.

I mean, let’s be realistic here.  I have a life that involves performing as an actor and as a musician.  Not only do I write for my website, Chicago Falcon, but I also write sketches and screenplays.  I have a day job.  I rehearse several times a week.  I exercise.  I live a life that I’m very happy with.  Where am I supposed to fit in time to go out and meet women?

The answer of course, is that meeting women is a part of this lifestyle.  By living the life that I enjoy, even though it’s extremely busy, the quality of it, and my enthusiasm for it, is more than enough to show women that I am the kind of man who knows what he’s looking for out of life, and is not afraid to go after it.  And they find this very attractive.

From talking with and watching naturals I have determined that there are only three elements necessary to draw a woman into my world and show her enough of my personality to have her coming home with me or waiting for our next date together.

The first element is the development of my core values in life.  These are the rules and philosophies that guide my life, both my day-to-day life and my long term, lifelong goals as well.  How well do you know own habits and behavior?  Have you ever gone on a date with yourself?  How about meditated?  Or perhaps taken an acting class?  Or moved to a new city without knowing anyone?

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• Kezia tells us about her experience day-to-day as a PUA trainer
• Kezia explains how pickup has changed her life
• Kezia reveals the secrets of the best naturals
• Kezia shares how to pickup her model girlfriends off a cold approach
• Kezia talks about her upcoming book, 15 Steps To Becoming A Master Seducer

You can find more about Kezia at Kezia-Noble.com and PuaTraining.com. Be on the lookout for her book coming out in May 2010.

Guest post by DJ Fuji

Routines, scripts, lines, things to say. Some love ‘em, some hate ‘em, nearly everyone misunderstands them.

For those who are unfamiliar with the term, a routine is simply something that you tend to say more than once. In other words, a memorized script of varying length. So in essence, both our kneejerk “fine” response to the question, “how are you?” and a rehearsed, pre-scripted story are routines. One is simply longer and more complex than the other. Obviously, all of us use routines in one way or another.

Routines (whether yours or someone else’s) can also take the form of being canned, meaning that you’ve practiced them over and over again until you can deliver them well, or Stock, which means they’re generic, off-the-shelf scripts, usually created by others. Both can be useful tools, especially if you’re just starting out or if you don’t have a lot of natural talent.

Now before we move on, let’s take a quick quiz.

Question: What do you think is the main purpose for routines? What is the main purpose for openers? Now what is the main purpose for attraction routines? Stories?

Think about it for a minute.

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Hey guys, this is a guest post exclusively for PUA Lingo by Johnny Wolf, Senior Instructor for The ABC’s of Attraction and co-founder/co-host of the PUA Summit

The Perfect Time to Pick Up:

Timing is everything, and that is especially true when it comes to meeting women and being on top of your game.

Midnight – 2am:

The most common time for guys to run game is around midnight until 2am.  This includes naturals and PUAs a like, since it takes some time for warm up for most PUAs, and some time for naturals to get some drinks in them.

Pros: Great for getting over approach anxiety since people are starting to drink and get buzzed, everyone is feeling social, and social circles break apart so there will be single girls and two sets walking around.

Cons: Everyone else is sarging at this time as well, AMOGs come out, and bitch shields come up.  Plus this is the hours that girls are most likely to forget who you are when you call since there is so much alcohol and stimuli.

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Hey guys Preston Blain here from over at Social Masters. My pal Casual asked me to write a guest post and here I am

To start this post I have a question for you. Would you rather have a huge array of techniques at your disposal but little confidence in oneself, or would you rather have great confidence but only a little technical knowledge?

See most people I know who are into the Pickup scene have great knowledge of techniques but lack the confidence to put any of it into action. This situation will definitely end in tears. You will feel like you should be meeting loads of women but you aren’t. You will get frustrated because you will look at others and think “I am so much cooler than him, but he is getting the women. If only I had the confidence I would show them…”.

I know because when I started learning how to pick up women, I focused only on techniques. I believed that by gaining knowledge about meeting women would give me confidence. That I would learn how to do it then rush out into the real world and smash it so to speak. It didn’t.

I would go out with a friend on mine. Someone who was not interested in learning how to meet women because he was already pretty successful. Not because he was naturally good with women, but because he had balls of pure steel and a never say die attitude.

He is the sort of guy who not only had the confidence to approach women on a regular basis, but also no matter how many times he got turned down he would keep going. Where as I, at this particular time, would feel the fear so badly that I would not approach women at all. I would just sit back and watch him in action.

So the thing is, having the confidence to approach women one after another, even if you are not great with women will be more successful than someone who knows every single aspect of pick up and yet does not approach women because they lack the confidence to put their knowledge into action. If you don’t approach then you have no hope in hell (unless you have one of those rare moments a girl approaches you).

Now I am not saying confidence is everything. All I am saying is that learning technique after technique will do you absolutely no good unless you put it into action. You must remember to develop your mental toughness as well as your technical ability.

Catch you laters,
Preston Blain

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Preston Blain is David Black’s right hand man over at Social Masters, a blog designed to teach men how to get a girl. He helped create the cutting-edge course that teaches men how to flip womens’ attraction switches naturally: ‘The Death Of Game’.

Guest post by Anders Tryka

Hi guys Anders Tryka here,

Casual has been following my blog Powerful Connections for some time and suggested that I write a guest post or two for PUA Lingo and since a lot of my blog and e-book readers have been asking me for some of my more stealthy KINO stuff I thought I might as well just go on ahead and write about it here.

Maybe you have been in the same situation as many of the guys that I have coached along the way have been. You walk up to a girl and have an amazing talk with her that blows you away. Quite possibly you end up exchanging phone numbers and one month down the road you are one of her coolest hang-arounds, and that’s it. You ended up in the friend zone, as there was nothing deeper between the two of you. There was no physical connection. There was no sensual sub-communication, other than your words.

If you do not recognize this situation, you’re one of the lucky few. The fact of the matter is that verbal techniques get somewhere around 80 – 90 percent of the attention on boards and websites like this one, and as a result most guys put emphasis on this part of their game. In reality though, it is my estimate that non-verbal skills such as set positioning and KINO account for 80 percent of the results you achieve with women. That is of course, if we were to exclude the scope of internal “skills” such as attitudes and beliefs.

No matter your previous results with women, you definitely want to look into your non-verbal game. If you ALREADY use a great deal of KINO, you may want to look into the timing and / or intensity. If you didn’t use a lot of KINO before, this page will surely help you become a KINO jedi in no time!

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AlphaWolf just dropped another awesome interview over at our sister site, the SeductionList Directory. In the interview, Alpha interviews well known pick up artist Jon Sinn, one of the original instructors for the Mystery Method corporation, and now the founder of his own company, the Sinns of Attraction, which offers innovative, long-term pickup coaching.

Some highlights from the interview:

• How to avoid getting flakes from girls
• How to close a girl on the first date
• How to make long lasting change to your game
• How to find your personal voice and express it to the world
• …And much more!

For the full Jon Sinn interview, head over to the SeductionList!

Guest post by David Black

You’ve known this one girl for quite a while, you get on really well, you have a laugh and joke together and feel like you can talk about anything.

You really like this girl (in that way), and you try to ‘make a move’ on her. She rejects your advances and says, “I see you as more of a friend.”

Ouch.

I’ve been there. I know this sucks really bad. You are now officially stuck in the ‘friend zone’.

The evil one-sided form of a dating romance, where your attraction for a girl is amplified by the fact that she doesn’t feel the same way for you. If left unchecked, this can descend into a self-destructive spiral of obsession and humiliation. Neither of which any man should ever have to contend with.

Let me say one thing first: There is no quick-fix for escaping the friend zone once you have entered. It is hard. The girl has already made a judgement about your potential as a sexual partner, and at this time, she doesn’t see you in that way. It is possible to change her mind but it’s gonna take a bit of effort.

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Guest post by RedpoleQ

Anti-Slut Defense is any action a girl takes to shut down sexual escalation, often suddenly and quite opposite to her previous behavior. Often by breaking a sexual mood through sudden, often irrational, inexplicable verbal or non-verbal non-compliance.

It tends to strikes just when you think everything is lined up and the full-close is inevitable.

Why does it exist?

It boils down to the Madonna/Whore dichotomy.

Madonna(not the singer)-Jesus’s mother, a woman so perfect and pure that not only did she give birth to the son of god, but she did it without having to resort to dirty, dirty sex

Whore-A woman who will do any sexual act with anyone for the right price, as often as necessary.

Every culture has there own scale that runs from Madonna to Whore and you can place any behavior somewhere on that scale. Each culture draws a line somewhere along that scale and anything on the right half of the scale is Whore behavior and anything on the left is Madonna behavior.

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500

500. That is a lot of freaking posts. I still remember the day Casual and I sat in my room, with sheets of paper, pickup books and Internet pages will staring at us in their purest forms and definitions. Since then, we have launched in 2009 with 350 posts, and grew the site to 500 just last week.

When we started this, we thought that an aggregation of the appendix of The Game, The Venusian Arts Handbook and FastSeduction would do the trick. Boy were we wrong. New words came from everywhere. New products. Instructors from new schools. Guys we go out with. Instructors visiting San Francisco from out of town (Troy D). Our own gaming experiences. And so on. Game will always be innovative, because the very concept of an “artform” never stays static. Like water, it flows and evolves, adapts the different situations as the world changes. Therefore, look for many more definitions to come. As always, we welcome guest bloggers and post submissions, with a thank you backlink to your own blog or site.

Are you a master yet?

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Guest post by Love Systems Daxx

Hey guys Daxx here,

Got an email from Casual to write a guest post on here, and while I was at the PUA Summit this year I had a few guys asking me ‘How Do You Pass Shit Tests?’ I was going to post this on my blog – http://www.daxxterity.com but thought it would be a good opportunity to post it on here.

First off, what is a ‘shit test’?

For those that don’t know, these ‘tests’ are questions that girls will throw at us to see if we walk the walk as well as talk the talk. The reason girls do this is because a lot of guys can be confident on the approach and play a good poker face the whole way through the interaction, but later down the line the cracks start to show and the confident guy she thought he was is actually not that guy at all.

So girls throw these tests at us to separate the men from the boys, and a lot of the time the girl doesn’t even know she’s doing it. In summary, a shit test is a way of the girl finding out whether we are the real deal or just another hopeful trying to get into her pants.

Examples of ‘Shit Tests’

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We just dropped another awesome interview on our sister site, the SeductionList, this time with GK from Charisma Arts. GK has a lot of experience in the game, and he shares some awesome advice on how to improve your skills with women.

Here are just some of the topics we cover in the interview:

• How GK went from a 25 year-old virgin to a pickup instructor
• How to talk about yourself in a relatable way
• How to let a girl know you’re interested in her
• The importance of knowing how to touch a girl
• How to find out the most important logistics
• Common mistakes that newbies make
• The difference between day game and night game
• How to act sexual without coming across as creepy
• Great style and fashion advice

And more!

You can find the audio interview at the SeductionList Blog, and be sure to also check out GK’s blog, GK Shares Game, where he offers even more advice for improving your game.

Guest post by Scot McKay of X & Y Communications

Here it is: I think men’s dating and seduction advice in general focuses WAY too much on the pickup stage.

Don’t get me wrong. I get it. If you don’t actually MEET women, then there’s not much chance at anything else happening from there. Granted.

But the problem is that if we beg, borrow or steal just to get her number (or in the case of online dating, a response to our first e-mail), we may actually be mortgaging our ultimate success with women in the process.

The canned lines, cut/paste e-mails and whatever “means to the end” we come up with can leave us asking, “Uh…what do I do next?” sooner than later in our budding relationships with the hotties we’ve just met.

And when that happens, we don’t exactly look confident or masculine.

What’s more, we get uncomfortable…and she follows our lead.

Worst of all, she may even wonder who we REALLY ARE under there. Demonstrating character? Forget it, pal.

So you’ve got it: If you are shortsighted enough to throw all your eggs in the pickup basket (perhaps literally), you stand an excellent chance of getting NOWHERE beyond that.

Why? Because you’ve basically STRUCK OUT when it comes to being a “big four” man…all in under ten minutes.

Ouch.

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Guest post by GK of GK Shares Game.

I’m generally against using pickup jargon and acronyms with my students – even the ones associated with my company. Yup, I’m one of those guys. But as I hear men describe their problems with women, there is one acronym I’ve been kicking around lately, and what better place than PUA Lingo to share it? I feel like an uptight female accountant spending a weekend in Vegas. It’s time to let my hair down.

So here it is: SUAL. That means Shut Up and Lead. I’m really hoping this catches on so I can have my own addition to the seduction canon. My last one, SGMAB (She Got Me a Beer), didn’t take.

OK, I’ll get serious. This is actually more of a tough-love post. I see lots of questions from guys — be they my students with Charisma Arts, forum members or guys e-mailing me from around the world. On the surface they’re all different and complex problems, but the guys probably know deep down that they require the same simple solution: leadership.

Here are some examples of what I mean:

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We just posted another awesome podcast over at the SeductionList, this time with Dan, a former head instructor at Charisma Arts and the founder of The Charming Geek. We went over a lot of great material in the podcast, including how to build your confidence, how to improve your sense of style, and how to skyrocket your conversation skills.

Here’s a more detailed list of what we covered:

• How to speed up your learning process through coaching and accountability
• How to build a cycle of success that will get you quicker results
• How to have engaging conversations
• What to do when a conversation stalls
• How to build rock-solid confidence
• Killer advice for beginners and guys just getting into the game
• Fashion tips for looking your best and standing out from the crowd
• Why looks don’t matter in pickup

…And more!

To download and listen to the full podcast, visit the SeductionList.

I was lucky enough to get in touch with DJ Fuji of Tao of Fuji. Fuji is a former Mehow instructor and currently keeps a blog at Tao of Fuji. We discussed so many things in the session, and I am very excited to bring this interview to you guys. Fuji and I talked about:

• DJ Fuji’s journey into the seduction community
• Discipline and the time it takes to develop game
• What routines really mean: the principal behind the routines need to be understood otherwise routines by themselves are useless
• How does being good looking affect game? (This was my favorite part)
• How does being rich affect game?
• How does being Asian in the US affect game?
• How does plastic surgery fit into game?
• What is long term coaching and how does it work?
• What sets Tao of Fuji apart from other pickup companies?
• The coolest thing for me, was his breakdown of how society has the 80-20 rule for pickup and how society does not want us to date out of our league
• I also enjoyed greatly Fuji’s perspective on whether the seduction community will always remain underground, or will eventually go mainstream

This is a great interview that’s loaded with value. To listen to DJ Fuji’s thought process and listen to our full audio interview, visit the SeductionList.

AlphaWolf just dropped an awesome interview with Troy Dizon of the Troy Dizon Dating company on our sister site, the SeductionList. Troy is a natural who discovered the seduction community and developed his own unique style of pickup that focuses on lifestyle development and creating a system that brings women to you. Troy has coached hundreds of clients, and his company is one of the rising stars of the seduction community, with an innovative coaching structure that gets results.

Here are some of the topics that AlphaWolf and Troy cover in the interview:

• Troy’s journey into the seduction community
• How long did it takes for someone to get good
• Troy’s favorite seduction-related websites
• Lifestyle development
• What sets TDD apart from other pickup companies
• Vibe control, following the energy
• The challenge that Asian PUAs face
• What’s next for TDD and the TDD Forums

You can download the full podcast from the SeducitonList.

AlphaWolf and I have been hard at work over the past few months, gathering and writing definitions for PUA Lingo, and we now have nearly 30 definitions set to publish over the next few weeks, which will bring the total number of terms on our site close to 500. Exciting stuff!

Today, though, I wanted to talk about another project that AlphaWolf and I have been working on, called the SeductionList. The SeductionList is basically the largest directory of pickup and seduction related websites on the internet. We’ve been working hard on this site for a couple months now, and we’re proud to announce that we’re launching it today.

So why the SeductionList?

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Do you have a PUA blog? Ever wonder if you can skip the long explanations for PUA terminology with a hyperlink so that the newbies can find out for themselves what “IOI” means if they are unsure?

We have some good news for you. We’re making automatic linking to all PUA lingo definitions available to any WordPress blog users. Here are the instructions I use to auto link all PUA definitions from my blog GodofStyle.com to PUA Lingo:

1. Install SEO Smart Links for WordPress. You can do this using the plugin page within wordpress by searching for it in the plug-ins tab:

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