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  • Anti-Slut Defense

    By on November 10, 2009

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    Guest post by RedpoleQAnti-Slut Defense is any action a girl takes to shut down sexual escalation, often suddenly and quite opposite to her previous behavior. Often by breaking a sexual mood through sudden, often irrational, inexplicable verbal or non-verbal non-compliance.It tends to strikes just when you think everything is lined up and the full-close is inevitable.

    Why does it exist?

    It boils down to the Madonna/Whore dichotomy.

    Madonna(not the singer)-Jesus’s mother, a woman so perfect and pure that not only did she give birth to the son of god, but she did it without having to resort to dirty, dirty sex

    Whore-A woman who will do any sexual act with anyone for the right price, as often as necessary.

    Every culture has there own scale that runs from Madonna to Whore and you can place any behavior somewhere on that scale. Each culture draws a line somewhere along that scale and anything on the right half of the scale is Whore behavior and anything on the left is Madonna behavior.

    In particularly conservative cultures a woman showing her face, for example, or being in the presence of a non-family male without a chaperon is whore behavior. In more liberal cultures a woman can wear a mini-skirt with no panties, get sloshed, make out with every guy in the bar and then if some guy tries to take her home she can still say with a totally straight face, “I’m not that kind of girl.” << Anti-Slut Defense!

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    The social consequences of being labeled a slut (true or untrue) can be devastating, therefore girls have to take extra caution protecting themselves

    Anti-Slut Defense happens whenever you start to get close to the border(or cross the border) and a girl wants to preserve her Madonna status. For some behaviors in some cultures, once a whore always a whore, while in others it’s a matter of balancing the amount of Madonna behaviors with the amount of Whore behaviors to maintain the right image.

    This is why the longer your with a woman the kinkier sex becomes. She might have wanted you to hang her from the ceiling and drip candle wax on top of her while watching lesbian porn the first time you had sex with her, but she doesn’t want to ask.

    She knows that if she saves that for later, you’ll see her as a “really nice girl who’s a tiger in the sack” rather than as a “total freak who can’t get enough”. In fact, she knows that brining out her Whore too soon could even disqualify her from long term relationships with the guys that she most wants to do the most depraved things her imagination can conjure.

    Anti-Slut Defense can range anywhere from, “I don’t usually do this,” right before a woman gives you a blow job on ferris wheel on the first date, to a girl refusing to give you her phone number because, “I don’t give my number to people I just met,” to “Don’t touch me!” when you’ve gotten full compliance to kino escalation, to a girl agreeing to come to your house and then remembering she has to paint her toenails for her big presentation on the evolution of frog spinal cords.

    In milder cases the simple re-assurance, of an “I know, baby,” will do it. In other cases more qualification(especially) or more comfort will do the trick.

    Setting up lots of plausible deniability, handling logistics very smoothly, and pull-push can make the interaction slide so smoothly that her Anti-Slut Defense doesn’t have a chance to engage.

    Thus you should save hardcore sexcalation for a sex location whenever possible and stay away from cheap thrills where you play your hand too soon.

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    Send any thoughts and comments my way.

    Talk soon,

    RedpoleQ


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  • 4 Comments

    • Hamilton Ricardo

      Interesting stuff. Would you say that there are still some girls who, no matter how smoothly you deal with all of it, will still say no in the very early days? I’ve encountered this with a girl who, despite making out with so many guys, had barely had any sex before me. We did eventually but it did take a long time. Do you sometimes just have to accept that it’s not gonna happen straight away?

    • Yeah, when I say more comfort, more qualification that could mean a 10minutes, or it could mean 10hours.

      For most girls 4-5 hours on a Day2 is enough for me, while there have been a few where the full close took over 7 hours. Recently it took untila Day5 with one woman.

      And I was even with one Korean girl who on the Day4 when I tried to take her t a love hotel pulled our a dictionary and looked up the word for “family crest” and “shame”!

      The fact that a girl gets sexual with you early on is no indication that she won’t pull it back later, which is why I avoid heavy make-outs or other sexcalation outside of a sexcalation location.

      When you have a heavy makeout or other sexcalation in a non-sexcalation location it’s just a cheap thrill that gets you all worked up and excited(which is why girls do it–riding the validation train!)

      But in the long run, this can really screw up your calibration because you’re thinking, “All I have to do is get this girl somewhere private,” but because you’ve already made things sexual she’ll really try to stay away from a sexcalocation.

      On the other hand when you hold back and wait until you’re someplace private where sex can happen and you sexcalate you’ll still be thinking straight if you do run into ASD.

    • Tony

      Reminds of I joke I got told just last week.

      (teller’s name concealed to protect the guilty)

      Probably really old but gimme a break – I don’t get out much.

      “What’s the difference between a slut and a bitch?

      A slut will fuck everyone in the bar.

      A bitch will fuck everyone in the bar apart from you!”

      And yes, I’ve met a lot of bitches :>

    • That’s hilarious. Stolen!

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