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  • Affirmation

    By on November 17, 2008

    Quick Definition: An exercise by which one builds new beliefs by restating or “affirming” them on a regular basis.


    Full Definition:

    Affirmation is a technique taken from the fields of self-help and pop psychology.

    The basic idea behind Affirmation is that our thoughts shape our identity and the way we perceive the world. Thus, if we hold negative thoughts and repeat negative beliefs to ourselves, we become negative people, whereas if we have positive thoughts, the opposite is true.

    A basic Affirmation is a positive belief about oneself. A PUA will repeat the Affirmation to himself over and over in an attempt to “program” his mind to believe that the Affirmation is true. For example, if an aspiring PUA is afraid of approaching women, one Affirmation that he might use would be: “I am comfortable approaching women.” He would then repeat the phrase to himself to develop that positive belief.

    Affirmations are always framed in positive terms rather than negatively, so a good affirmation would be: “I am brave and strong,” as opposed to “I am NOT afraid or weak.”

    The best time to use Affirmations is first thing in the morning when you wake up, and right before you go to bed. The simplest method of practicing Affirmations is to verbally recite them over and over, but other methods include writing the phrase repeatedly, reciting the affirmation aloud while writing it, or even saying the affirmation while looking into a mirror.

    Some PUAs doubt the effectiveness of Affirmations, arguing that the best way to build positive beliefs is by taking positive actions in the field, while other swear by them and find them useful in strengthening their inner game.


    Related Terms: Limiting Belief, Congruence, Inner Game

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  • 25 Comments

    • Will

      Hi

      This is my personal affirmation list. It’s mostly to help me be successful with women but also has a lot to do with having self-esteem, confidence and a healthy psychological state of being. Feel free to use it and share it with others. It took me a long time build this list and I have found extremely helpful.

      Peace

      Beliefs of Naturals – My Reality

      Read 3 times before bed and in the morning(do it for a for month)
      Record in the second person. Play recording on a loop continuously at a low volume(whisper).
      Play recording during the day and at night while sleeping.

      1. Being with me is the best possible choice for any woman.

      2. Women love men and especially love me.

      3. I love life!

      4. I am God. I am Perfect. This is my universe!

      5. I am fearless, courageous and bold!!!

      6. I read incredibly fast!

      7. Women love sex and want sex from me.

      8. My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite!

      9. Women love to be hit on even if they pretend otherwise.

      10. I am completely focused, organised and use my time with the utmost efficiency.

      11. Women are nurtures and pleaser’s who want to nurture and please me.

      12. I am a self-assured, confident, sexual and dominant male.

      13. Everyday in every way I am better and better!!!

      14. I have complete control over my life, mind and psychological state of being.

      15. I am the greatest genius this world has ever seen.

      16. I heal instantly!

      17. I am successful, confident and achieve my goals. I exude confidence, sex, power and self-esteem.

      18. I can be, do and have anything I want to in this world, my possibilities are endless!!!

      19. I love myself! I am complete, fulfilled and completely happy!!!

      20. I am growing more beautiful and luminous day by day.

      21. People love me! I make friends easily.

      23. I read and meditate every day. I access all the knowledge in the universe.

      25. I am completely irresistible to women!

      26. Regardless of how she is reacting to me she is getting aroused.

      27. I see the underlying truth in all things.

      28. I am an adventurer! I travel the world!

      29. Regardless of how she is reacting to me I am the prize she is trying to win over!

      30. I am a multi-millionaire and master seducer!

      31. I love what I do and am richly rewarded, creatively and financially.

      32. I have a perfect photographic memory! I recall everything easily.

      33. Since she wants to sleep with me, the power is in my court to decide whether she lives up to my standards and expectations. I get to decide if we get to sleep together.

      34. I create my own reality!

      35. Today I love my body fully, deeply and joyfully.

      37. Today I open my mind to the endless opportunities surrounding me.

      38. Prosperity surrounds me, prosperity fills me, prosperity flows to me and through me.

      39. I have sex with super hot, confident, loving, caring and intelligent women with genius IQ’s all the time!

      40. I think positively every day, all the time.

      41. I attract amazing people.

      42. My imagination and power affirmations are now creating the reality I desire.

      43. My body is now trained to burn fat and build muscle day by day.

      44. I have a six pack of abdominal muscles.

      45. Let these commands be fulfilled!!!

      46. I am filled with the light of love, peace, happiness, power, success and joy every day, all the time.

      47. I am aggressive, direct and powerful with the women I desire. I radiate a confidence, self-control and charm that women find irresistibly attractive.

      48. My mind is focused on what I desire and I go for it congruently and powerfully.

      49. I take immediate advantage of my opportunities with women. I swiftly establish incredible rapport, gather the information I need, then close with aggression, power and finesse.

      50. I radiate a natural, easy self-acceptance that women find irresistibly attractive.

      51. I am mastering the responses, attitudes, behaviours, insights and timing that bring me irresistible power with the women I desire.

      52. I am now approaching women that I am attracted to.

      53. I am able to pick up and attract any women I desire.

      54. I am a strong, powerful, aggressive, dominant, alpha male, leader and conqueror!!!

      55. I am charming, interesting and fascinating!!!

      56. I have a perfectly sculptured muscle ripped body.

      57. I am super hot and sexy, all women want me!

      58. Abundance is my natural state of being!

      59. Money comes to me easily and continuously from multiple sources!

      61. My IQ and intelligence increases daily rapidly!!!

      62. I have clear beautiful skin!

      63. I have lucid dreams and recall all my dreams with complete clarity!

      65. All things are now working together for good in my life.

      66. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

      67. I rule the world! I am brilliant and perfect in every possible way!

      68. I succeed in everything I do!

      69. I have sex with one thousand super hot women!

      70. I am now enjoying everything I do and feel happy just being alive.

      71. Sex with super hot women comes to me easily and effortlessly.

      72. The light within me creates miracles in my life here and now.

      73. All things are now working together for good in my life.

      74. I am now attuned to my higher purpose in life.

      75. I have the infinite creative power of God within me.

      76. My higher self is guiding me in everything that I do.

      77. God lives within me and manifests in the world through me.

      78. The light of God surrounds me, the love of God enfolds me, the power of God flows through me. Wherever I am, God is, and all is well!

      79. I ascend spiritually rapidly everyday all the time!

      80. I am a Natural, Ladies Man and Player!

    • Thanks for sharing this Will! I’m holding you to all 80 next time I see you

    • Will

      Pleasure, I hope some folks find it useful as I have. I added 3 more affirmations that focuses on standards and the perspective that hot women are proactively trying to pick you up.

      81. Everywhere I go women want to fuck me!

      82. I have sex with supermodels daily.

      83. Supermodels have an incredible desire to fuck me wherever I go!

    • Will

      84. I attract whatever I desire.

      85. I am the most desirable man in the world. I am God’s gift to women.

      86. I attract beautiful women on a deeply subconscious level.

      87. Beautiful women are extremely persistent with me for sex.

      88. What I believe is reality.

    • lee

      I know you seriously don’t recite that many affs. They’re great but Its more effective if you look in the mirror. Are you just throwing the ideas around or are you actually doing all of those affirmations

    • Will

      I did recite the full list 3 times before bed and in the morning for a month or two. Now I just use a shorter list and play the long list on repeat as a subliminal tape.

      //Long list
      http://ezinearticles.com/?Beliefs-of-Naturals—Affirmations-to-Transform-Your-Core-Beliefs-to-Seduce-Any-Woman&id=5539330

      //Short List

      Beautiful women are extremely persistent with me for sex!

      Everybody loves me and all women want me.

      I am a Sexy Beast! Everywhere I go women want to fuck me!

      I am a catch and out of her league, any woman that’s with me is very
      fortunate to have my attention.

      I am the most desirable man in the world. I am God’s gift to women.

      I am a strong, powerful, aggressive, dominant, alpha male, leader
      and conqueror!

      I exude infinite sex, power, confidence, happiness and self-love all
      the time.

      Beautiful women are extremely attracted to me on a deeply
      subconscious level.

      I am a Bad Boy, Player, Natural and Ladies Man.

      Supermodels and incredibly hot women proactively, persistently and
      aggressively seek me out to fuck me.

      Women experience me as extremely intoxicating, exciting and
      addictive.

      Women are perverted creatures who are always trying to fuck me.

      Every morning I wake up in bed with twenty supermodels.

      I can fuck any girl I want in any situation.

    • lee

      Haha! Those are awesome! Hehe I remember when I was into Cory Skyy I was doing affirmations in the mirror everyday. It actually did change me, but then my ego got so damn big, I became self conscious about my personality. But It was pretty sick the things that were happening to me. You could say I was on top of my game. But I quit. So how are things going on with you? Since doing those affirmations, or are you still internalizing them?

    • Will

      Sweet! Well, I feel a thousand times more confident and self-assured than I did as a kid. An interesting observation I have noticed is what gets in the way in the conscious mind(or thinking about it). Self brainwashing myself has been like imprisoning a beast in my subconscious mind, when I get the trashed(or even tipsy) the beast is set free and I am a natural in that moment. The problem with alcohol is beer-goggles, I have sometimes tried to pick up average looking women. I really cannot settle for anything less than quality or at least looks.

    • lee

      Have you tried them in the mirror? That will realky change your life. If you ever make a mp3 or cd with tse (short) affirmations, make sure to use the present “I” and repeat each one atleast 3 times. The easiest mindshift ever. I been listening to a Thinkrightnow cd and it is completely changing my behavior and attitude its Crazy! But anyway they wont make one on men being sexually dezirable etc. But IF you make one let me know, you can make Damn good money and I’d be glad to help spread the word around.. If that thinkrightnow website has THAT much success, you would probably have even more. There are no programs like that.

    • Will

      Thanks for the tips! I have never tried them in front of a mirror, will have to experiment. I use the present “You” on the mp3, in the field of Hypnosis “I” is rarely used because the conscious and subconscious mind is less likely to slam down these “unbelievable” affirmations if the source appears to be external. I created a low quality Mp3 that is very easy for you to replicate. I play it at a very low volume(a whisper) throughout every night and during some days. Your conscious mind may not capture the sounds but it goes right into your subconscious!

    • Recording yourself on video, or voice audio and replaying back helps a lot. Often we sound different to ourselves than we come across to others (!)

    • lee

      1.I believe in myself regardless of what Anyone thinks!

      2.I am a sexy motherfucker!

      3.I am Confident

      4.Women wanna fuck me everywhere I go.

      5.I am awesome. Period

      6.I’m cool, calm,& collected at all times

    • lee

      I don’t buy into approach anxiety. Especially after doing those affirmations fir a few months. Almost all women were easy at that point. All I had to do was look over and say “hey” and boom it was on.

    • Will

      Agreed! Does Brad Pitt ever get approach anxiety? It’s all a matter of perspective. I also think the greatest killer to your game is the “Fear of Loss”. Embrace loss, let go, losing all hope is freedom. A warrior fights to the death but is not attached to the outcome of the battle. Whatever happens his purpose is fulfilled. Brilliant! What methods or strategies did you use to install these beliefs?

    • lee

      One word. Mirror affirmations. lol :-) Did it everyday for about what 2 months?. Oh and now U am doing the whole Brent smith thing. Check him out dude its brentsmithsays on youtube. Also this guy posted a long ass comment but it sums it all up. Amazing stuff. This, is Game.

      http://relationalmastery.com/amember/forum/viewtopic.php?f=2&t=306&start=0

    • Will

      Awesome, thanks!!! I have come to accept this exact perspective on my own. I am infinitely in love with myself and cannot think of human existence in any other possible way. I am complete and self-fulfilled, I do not need or want anything in this world. I am completely detached to the exterior world in every possible way.

    • lee

      Niice. Ps don’t you hate it when female barbers Over flirt while cutting your hair? Guess you can’t blame them, were completely free. 1% of the worlds population. Much love

    • Will

      Btw, I revised the short list and made it shorter. I am going to try repeating just these 6 affirmations daily.

      1. I am a Sexy Beast! Everywhere I go women want to fuck me.

      2. Women are extremely persistent with me for sex.

      3. I am infinitely in love with myself.

      4. I am infinitely confident, powerful and happy.

      5. Everybody loves me and all women want me.

      6. I am a catch and out of her league.

    • Will

      and maybe add:

      7. My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite.

      8. I am brilliant and perfect in every possible way.

    • Will

      9. I can fuck any girl in any situation.

    • Will

      10. I don’t want anything from anyone, ever.

      11. I am unattached from all possible outcomes.

    • jacky

      very cool,i love those affirmations

    • Jason

      Thanks for the wonderful list Will! This is my short list that I decided to use daily in the morning and evening.

      1. Every woman in the world wants to have incredible wild sex with me.

      2. I can fuck any girl in any situation.

      3. I am a Sexy Beast! Everywhere I go women want to fuck me.

      4. Beautiful woman are extremely persistent with me for sex.

      5. I am God! My intelligence, creativity and potential is infinite.

      6. I am infinitely confident, powerful and happy.

      7. I am infinitely in love with myself.

    • NIrvana

      wow this is a bit paranoid you all thinking outside of reality

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