About Vince Lin
What Is It Like To Suck With Girls? Well…
May 12th, 2004. This was the day the day I graduated from college and things have never been the same since. The Real World kicked my ass. Hard. I wasn’t a good corporate employee, and drifted from one white collar job to another. I didn’t take orders from managers very well and this hasn’t changed in the years after graduation.
The one thing I had going for me was my interviewing skills, so whenever I was “asked” to leave, I could get another job easily. Despite this asset, I was terrible with women! I remember going to the mall near Stamford, CT where all the east coast grads are, and wandering around, nervously looking at all the pretty girls that walked by. I thought to myself, “how cool would it be if I could get one of them to like me and date me!?”
Despite this, all I could do at the time was stare and wish. I remember walking home and thinking, “maybe I need more money and more success before they would pay attention to me”. My ego wasn’t allowing me to get over this and actually start seeing reality for what it is.
Have you ever seen a girl on the street, at the gym, in a park, or during your day to day life that you wanted to meet, but had no idea how to? Perhaps worse, have you ever approached a girl to say hello, and realized that what you’re about to say, 10 other guys have probably said to her this week? This feeling fueled my resolve to find a solution to my problem, and to be with the women I wanted to be with in this life. No limitations, no excuses. The pain was outweighing my ego’s defense mechanisms to protect its “identity”. This is how most epic journeys start.
Planting the Seeds
A year later, I quit my gig in Stamford and moved to sunny California, near sunny (and occasionally cloudy) San Francisco. Things looked better already, but I still sucked with women. I started out at Asian clubs, sort of chatting up girls in that scene. Since I was a tall, decent looking Asian guy, I’ll start getting numbers here and there, but it never amounted to anything. I started feeling frustrated at my lack of success and started having some doubts about myself again. Then one night, I met a guy called Bob, who stole a girl from me. He was cool and told me to look up “The Game“, a book about how to pick up girls. This was in 2006 so Neil had just published it less than a year ago.
What is Game?
GAME is not something you just pick up or casually learn for most guys. It takes dedication, effort, and a strategic plan. Without this, most guys fail. Yet, if you are able to succeed in putting a solid foundation together, the knowledge that you develop will be with you forever. Your brain will create new pathways into social interactions, and your ability to leverage those rules and guidelines to your own advantage, and the advantage of your loved ones. There is nothing more fulfilling to a man than knowing he has the ability to improve the lives of those around him.
Game to me is NOT just about picking up girls. It is about developing yourself and your life as a man. It involves everything from how you handle though situations, to how to treat people everyday. It extends beyond getting a girl’s number at a bar to how to treat the women in your life: your sisters your mother, your female friends. In this context, Game is how you interact with the world as a man. Your core values as a gentleman, which may include integrity, love, and honesty, are all at play when you develop your skills at meeting women.
Some people say the seduction community is about manipulation and tricking women. I believe the commercialization of the community adds some truth to his. However, without it, I would have never been able to develop the skills I have today, and so to my predecessors who built this community, I owe them my success and gratitude.
Fruits of The Game
A few years into learning “Game”, I was able to rack up the knowledge to score hot girls. Not only that, I felt like I was becoming a better man. I was dressing more stylishly and my friends noticed it. I was beginning to have better communication patterns with my coworkers and friends. I was learning about how to handle romantic and business relationships better. I was honest and upfront (without being pushy) about my personal boundaries, and people respected me for it. I felt more confident, and better about myself and my path in life. I learned to be humble and help others. I learned that most guys are good guys, if they get laid. Otherwise, their ego and their inability to procreate can manifest itself into some hateful, chode behavior. At the core, though, most guys are good people and helping them become FREE with women also allows you to get a glimpse of their inner essence, which is happiness and warmth by default.
What You Can Find On This Site
My foray into pick up involved the creation of PUA Lingo, a site I started with Casual PUA for fun. Instead, it grew and grew and now we run it as part of our overall business. I try to make this site as informative as possible, with ad space being ad space and not over-selling our users on anything. In fact, I am beginning to create a guide for beginners that will be free and available to anyone who finds the community.
After 5 or so years of “pimping”, As of 2013, I live in San Diego, and am dating a girl who I consider to be my dream girl. I am unafraid to speak my mind, and my decision to be with her is never stemmed from a fear or inability to get a girl as hot or as personality-compatible with me as her. Rather, I have a lot of friends who are girls, and my pick-up skills allow me to get a new girl easily, should this relationship not work out. My goal for this site is to make it as informative as possible, without commercial bias.
Here’s to your success with women, and with life. Feel free to leave a comment if you have any questions.
PUA Lingo is the Pick Up Artist’s Encyclopedia.
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AlphaWolf and Casual
About the Original Authors
AlphaWolf (aka Vince Lin): AlphaWolf’s journey into the seduction community began one night out in San Francisco, when he ran into an AMOG who recommended reading “The Game“. AlphaWolf got the book, finished it in 2 days, and has not been the same ever since. Alpha’s foundation stems from the Mystery Method, although more recently he has branched out into more natural game, Juggler’s Method and general improvisational skills. During his free time, Alpha is involved in entrepreneurship and enjoys a game of basketball with his friends. He keeps a personal blog of his life lessons in business and love.
Casual: Casual entered the pickup community after being LJBF’d and suffering from an acute case of one-itis. He stumbled across “The Game” by Neil Strauss, and later adopted the C&F method from DYD. He is a big fan of natural game, and has taken courses with Charisma Coaching, and has studied the materials of CA and the AoC. When not working on PUA Lingo, Casual enjoys building his passive value by pursuing his passion for dance, and is studying to be an entrepreneur and engineer.